I was really taken aback. I lost contact with this guy for a few years, but I always remembered him as a friendly, caring chap. This is one of the worst ways to hear of a friend’s demise – chancing upon it unknowingly.

Later on, after texting one of our common friend, I found out he passed on due to Stomach Cancer. Damn, cancer again! Why is cancer taking away so many innocent lives? This guy is young, and single. He hadn’t even started a family yet. Why him? (But it wasn’t fully a bad thing that he was not married. I can not even imagine the fate of a woman if she lost her husband at such a young age.)

I don’t know if it’s a lifestyle, or just a curse. Men these days are expiring much faster then women. So this goes out to all the guys who happen to look at this post. Please do take care.

You can eat anything you like, (Anything walking, crawling, swimming, flying..) But please make sure you DETOX properly each time you do so.

They do sell Detox Teas at Pharmacies, so…

1) Get your hand on a good Detox Tea and do drink it after you have a very fattening meal. You can also start sipping on good Green Tea on a frequent basis – replacing it with your common fizzy drink. Green tea contains substances called polyphenols that are believed to have powerful anti-cancer abilities.

2) If you ever had a surgery in your stomach, regarding ulcers or what not. Do take extra precautions and go for a check up everytime you feel pain or feel uncomfortable.

3) Quit smoking – ASAP. Whatever chances you have of getting cancer, smoking does nothing but doubles it! Especially when it comes to lung, throat, mouth, and liver cancer. If cancer is already in your genes, then all the more you should quit. Don’t do this for anybody. Do it for yourself.

4) Boost your Immune System. Start investing in Vitamins and Supplements, which makes your body strong enough to resist those baddies.

5) Add more Ginger, garlic and Tumeric in your food. Indians usually add all of this in abundance during cooking. If these items are not already in your ‘Ingredient List’, add them in now.

I hope I didn’t sound like some wannabe Doctor throughout this entire post. I just want to see this world surrounded with happy families. It is painful to lose a member of the family to Cancer, trust me. I’m a victim too.

Okay people, I’m not going to say I’m an expert in relationships or something. And you all can stop assuming I had a string of ex-boyfriends to be able to relate to this post.

This is mainly gathered by my experiences and my friends. Sometimes women have difficulty in understanding men, or trying to get along with them. As a result, they end up breaking the relationship over something which could have easily been solved – from the start. The worse is, when you break up with someone ‘cos of a trait you dislike, and the next boyfriend and the following one all possess the same traits. Okkk men, relax.. I’m not saying ‘ALL YOU MEN ARE THE SAME! UGH!’ I’m just sayin’ all of us are unique, but of course the same gender harbour some exclusive attributes which the other is not aware about. So let’s start!

1) You catch your men staring at a beautiful girl, while you’re standing beside him

Check this out, even Obama does it!

Okay, let’s face it. Men are attracted to visuals and therefore are very captivated to beauty. And in their eyes, beauty may mean many things, even curves included. So it’s not their fault that their eyes are fixed on that girl. But of course, that behaviour can be controlled if they want to.

Most women start jumping, crying and screaming in that situation. But the best way to handle is to approach this subject when the both of you are happy, and in a “Hey I’m in cool, cool” mood. Just try to tell him that you understand that it’s normal for men to want to check out these women, but remind them it makes you uncomfortable. Especially when the girl looks at you.. And the look actually means ‘Hey check it out, Ms. Fugly, Your boy thinks I AM hot.’ Let him know that he can check girls out, but remind him to do it in a subtle manner. I’m sure he wouldn’t mind, if he really wants to be with you in a long-term basis.

P.S. It just shows he is normal, when he looks at attractive men. You just have to be on your guard if it’s an attractive man he was looking at!

2) You just had a rough day at work, and call him up to vent your frustrations. Anyone in this situation, would like to have themselves heard, and it would feel great to hear some comforting words afterwards. But instead of hearing you, he cuts through halfway and goes on about how delicious the lamp chop he had for lunch was.

Whatttt. I didn't know....

I know, at this point you will feel like taking a cab straight to wherever he is just to poke his eyes with a pair of chopsticks. But relax ladies! It’s all normal. Guys, especially those who never really had an experience getting along with girls are never good listeners. Reason is simple. When something negative happens in their life, they pretty much keep it to themselves. Even if they share it with their guy friends, those guys would probably go ‘Eh fuck you la! You deserve it! Hahaha. K relax la brudder.. Can we go have beer now?’ So they don’t need listeners, and never had an opportunity to be one for a long time. It will take a lot of time and effort on your part to guide them and let them know what kind of response you were actually expecting. I would suggest hanging up first, and once you’ve cooled off, call them back and share your thoughts.

But ladies… Please be more cautious on the kind of information you share with your man. They’re least interested to know details which don’t weigh of any importance. Don’t tell him about details on how the work flow is in your office. Try to summarise your stories as much as you can, as generally men don’t have the patience, and they will get distracted if your story is boring. If you really have to share something which you know is going to bore your man out, dial your Best Friend Forever. I’m sure she will be have better things to say and will keep you more entertained.

3) Your boyfriend called you out for dinner on Friday. You called him out for a movie on Saturday. It’s Sunday, you’re feeling bored but your boyfriend chooses to rest at home.

Boredddd.

In this situation, some girls will choose to go over to his place to spend the Sunday with him again, since they have no plans. But I will strongly discourage that, and I have two simple reasons for that.

a) Your guy needs some space. Unless he seems okay about it, your guy probably has some reason for not wanting to meet you on Sunday. We have to respect that and let him have some family time.
b) If you are going to ask him out time and again, he’s going to think you’re too clingy or attention seeking and his attraction for you is going to depreciate. And that’s the last thing we want, if we’re in a relationship with that person, right?

4) You both just had a misunderstanding on the phone. He wants to hang up when the conversation is getting heated but you would prefer to talk things out immediately.

Talk to me now, I say!

The guy knows about his temper, and that’s precisely why he asks for some time to cool off. Unless you want him to start hurling vulgarities at you, just agree to end the conversation there.

I know a lot of girls who will start to screech on the phone and go. “NO! Tell me now! No, I want to settle it now! Why did you throw the basketball on my baby brother’s head!” Just don’t. Wait for him to call you back, and try to settle it down in a mature manner. Trust me, the last thing a guy wants to hear on the phone is his girl screaming. You scream, and your value diminishes a little more.

5) They start to control the way you dress and ask you to stop revealing the skin you used to parade.

"Why aren't you wearing your cardigan, baby?"

I totally feel the men have their reasons for asking a girl to start dressing decently. Firstly, if they’re serious about a girl, they would want to feel good bringing her around. If that point, you’re dressed skimpy, people might mistake you to be someone whom he has pure monetary relationship with. Secondly, it’s natural for humans to get possessive over things they adore. And it’s normal for him to restrict you from doing what appears bad in his eyes.

To me, I feel that if a guy feels proud of other men gawking at his girl’s skin, he’s an attention seeker. And these guys who likes their women to dress skimpy are generally those who are give more priority to external beauty in a relationship, so don’t be alarmed if he stops loving you when you start to expand during your maternity!

Of course if your man is asking you to travel everywhere in a sweatshirt with trackpants, especially in a sunny island like Singapore, that guy is probably psycho! Take him to the nearest psychiatrist if you still want to be with him.

That’s the 5 things I have compiled for now. Will update more regularly when I have the time. Sorry for disappointing you with my dilatory updates. Will improve… Ok?

I bet everyone here must have met people like this in your lives. Ah, everyone meets people who somehow or rather end up pissing you off so bad you wish you could have just punched them in their faces! Venting about them to your close ones, ONCE in a while is fine. And I repeat, ONCE in a while. Not the whole god-damn time.. When you see them and you go “Ah, you know this person. Did *bleh bleh bleh bleh.* and then *bleh bleh bleh bleh*.” And you know this person deep down HAS to update you on they’re so pissed off and the very next moment, you see them hanging out with the same person they were complaining about.

I guess these people have their own reasons for this. It could be cos…

1) They’re seeking for attention. They feel if they don’t have something juicy to tell you, you’re not going to be interested in holding a conversation with them anymore. So they start to add in extra ingredients in their story, that it seems so interesting. (In which 87% of the content will be pure bullshit.)

Like for example:-

REAL INCIDENT: Tommy, the cute guy in the office, an eye-candy to many females would slipped in the pantry but managed to stay on his feet. Jamie, an attention seeking colleague happens to see it. Tommy laughed it off and walked off.

HER NARRATION: Jamie (the attention seeker) would immediately run in and tell some whom SHE regards close to that,

“Hey you know earlier I saw Tommy. And guess what? He FELL DOWN! OMG like seriously. He was like really flat on the floor and almost went into concussion. I ran over and asked if he was ok. He GRABBED my hands and used it to get back up. CAN YOU BELIEVE IT GURL! He touched my hands! AHHH! And duh, I’m not going to wash my hands today ok! When he got off he actually exchanged his number with me. He said I looked nice when I dress this way!”

As you can see, the story has been modified to sound so interesting that will keep the party interested. Sometimes, these attention seekers go all the way to fake a conversation which someone whom they have never spoken to in their entire life. And if you pay close attention to these stories, you will notice they will all begin to sound the same. The conversation style and all, will not vary much. If we go further we will realize this people may be delusional. If you want to do a good deed for the day, go on. Please refer them to the nearest Mental Institute. Atleast we can help them out.

2) They can’t shut their mouth.

They have to tell people something! So information about A goes to C and about B goes to D and about C goes to A. Eventually everyone knows everything already. It’s okay to have one close pal you share your secrets and frustrations with. If you’re going to maintain that kind of a
‘bitching’ relationship with everyone, you’re going to be added in to their little black diary of people to avoid.

Wherever we go, we are bound to meet people like this. What I can advise is, GIVE THEM A KICK AT THEIR ARSE AND ASK THEM TO GET LOST FROM YOUR LIFE!

Nah, kidding. That must be a difficult option when you’re going to be with them for sometime for some reason. So, just try to avoid them as much as possible and don’t reveal your personal stuff to them. Not even your problems. Unless of course you’re cool with everyone else knowing how you have a fantasy of picking your nose and stickin’ the gooey stuff on people’s chair. (Pls tell me if you have this habit, I will stay away from you. Thank you.)

I apologise for the lack of updates. I’ve been really busy with work. I’m always so sloshed by the time I get back home that I jump onto my bed right away and Zzzz.

Gone were the days when I’ll start planning on every Thursday on what I should do on the weekends. Now I plan how can I re-shuffle my outings to weekdays so I can sleep at home instead. Oh no… I’m becoming

PORKY PIG!!!

I used to write a lot on people, things that piss me off, etc. Now I think I’ve been sucked out of my thinking skills. My mind is seriously blank right now. I’m like.. Ok, I login to my wordpress, and check the Site Stats (which has of course reduced drastically from like 200+ views to a pathetic 14 sometimes.) And then I start to think of an update, and end up logging out straight after.

Whyyyyy…..

Anyway, have you guys watched the clip on this Indonesian Police Officer who was sacked because of acting ‘unprofessional’ while on duty? If you haven’t please do. It’s hilarious, I tell you. You’ll be shocked to find out it’s not even an Indian dood singing and mouthing the words so beautifully.

Okay, this is it for now. Will update more often I hope. Thanks for the handful die-hard readers who’ve been viewing my blog despite the malfunctions in-between.

Till we meet again!

Since I’m losing topics to blog about, I thought of doing a few entries, bit by bit on the same topic. Weirdest places I’ve worked in. I’m always known for having strange encounters at work, anyway.

I actually went to this place for an interview and was granted the job on the spot and requested to start immediately. I had a hard time locating this place, first of all. It was located in somewhere around the Jurong Industrial Island, and I remember walking in the wrong direction towards the company just to find a dog caged outside, in the size of a tiger. Yeah, the dog was huge, dammit! When it started barking, I felt my heart vibrating.

Somehow I managed to find the place, and I went in for the interview. I was shocked when I saw the place. The website was wrong! The website told me this was a Chemical Company, but this company was selling detergents! It looked like a totally rundown warehouse, and I was walking really slowly as the floor was full of slippery soap.

When I went up for the Interview, the ‘Boss’ looked through my resume briefly, asked me a few questions on my experience, and gave me the job. All less than 5 mins.

He also mentioned ‘Your salary is totally over my budget, but I’m taking you in as I urgently need staff.’ And then he asked ‘Can you start today, as in Immediately? You have to replace someone who’s leaving (Siti) end of this week, and I need you to learn the job ASAP.’ I agreed.

The place was FILTHY. The blue carpet was turning black, and the boss told me that shoes were not allowed in the office unless you get a seperate slipper for use in the office only. Nonsense! If the office was clean, I wouldn’t mind walking barefoot. But this, TOTALLY contradicting. (Hence, the title of the blog post.)

And there was so much of printing and invoicing to be done, that I barely had time to visit the toilet.
But at the right hand corner, I noticed someone seated without a computer to work with. I mean… Where do you see someone working without a computer in a desk-bound job nowadays? She was just filing her nails, wiping her phone.. Slacking away. She was about 60 plus I think. I forgot her name, let’s just call her ‘Ah Soh’. The only time Ah Soh moved was to go to the ladies and to go for lunch with the boss. And did I mention… The toilet was a disaster. I felt like I travelled back to the 40’s whenever I went in. Ah Soh’s only jobscope is to do filing. And answering phonecalls. Like 3 calls per day. -.-

A while after, I realized that the person who I was taking over was actually new herself. Siti was just a few days into work and she resigned stating that she needs to look after her sick mother. Urm…. I started to suspect that she’s running away from the company, using her mother as an excuse. Then she started bugging me about the pay I was offered. I really find this a personal question and I don’t like disclosing my pay to anyone, unless they’re someone close. I also don’t go around asking people’s pay as that’s just unnecessary information to me. After I disclosed my pay she went… “Wah.. So good ah.” I didn’t know how to react, I just carried on printing.

Then came the Salesman of the company. He was an Indian chap, probably in his late twenties. And as usual, whenever a Singaporean Indian guy meets a new Indian colleague who’s a female, he’ll start acting so cool. Like one big duck. (You know I didn’t really mean duck. I’m trying not to be vulgar. LOL)

I am a big duck.

After a while, he started interrogating me on my previous work experiences and DEMANDED me to speak to the Purchasing Department of all those companies for him to sell his product. I said ‘ok-ok’ trying to ignore him. In my presence, he got the Siti to call her previous company from her Mobile Phone, and he snatched her phone trying and walked off, trying to sell his product. EXTREMELY UNPROFESSIONAL! He came back to return her phone and soon after, she got a call screwing her up, side, down, left, right, centre. Who likes pushy salesmen? Not me.

Whaz yo problem?!!

It was 4-ish already. I finally finished doing all those orders. I sat down to relax for a while and Ah Soh was like ‘Ok you’re free now? Do this filing.’ And left a huge pile of DOs, Invoices, etc on my table which hadn’t been filed for weeks. Now I know why she’s so free. At that very moment, I told myself I’m running away from that company!

After work, I called my sis and told her my experiences. You know, in times like this she’d be really there for me. To support me financially and to advise me if I should stay and give it a shot, or just leave. She told me not to step back there ever again. I felt relieved.

The next morning, I called the guy to tell him I won’t be coming to work anymore. To my surprise, he didn’t even seem disappointed or shocked. He probably saw it coming. I guess no one would last over there seeing all these! So this is one of my weird experience. Will post more in future!
Take care all.

Ong Mingwee, 27 yr-old accused for raping a 23 yr-old girl at Toa Payoh North. (Poor guy had no time to comb his hair)

This case if you ask me, could have been prevented. I don’t fully sympathize with the victim either. I’m not against women having fun in clubs, but every female should know that they are very vulnerable in places like these.

Getting themselves very drunk just adds on to their foolishness. If someone’s gonna argue with me sayin’ that this is fine because they’re all open minded; them they should just adapt to the rape and make it consensual. What?! Just be open-minded!

God made men visual creatures. They’re attracted to what they see. So you wanna flaunt what you got with skimpy clothes in the name of parties like ‘Zouk-out’ etc? Sure; just be prepared to get groped and molested. And please don’t cry when it happens. YOU asked for it.

I can never understand the logic of women wearing revealing clothes and getting angry when they receive suggestive comments.

How dare you call my facebook profile pic slutty?!!!

Let me be known as the conservative one. I’m proud of my identity, anyways.

I truly emphathize with helpless victims of sexual abuse. Like the poor victims who suffer at home with a privative member, or children who are mishandled by polluted adults. These are the true victims in my opinion. But the case above….. *sigh*

I’m turning 26 next year! OMG! *Runs away with inverted palm on mouth like a 60′s bollywood queen.*

Anways, before I forget; my belated X’mas greetings to all of you folks! Hope you had a blast and enjoyed your weekend.

I had a great weekend myself. Let me see.. I did some shopping with my sister, caught a movie (Gulliver’s Travels; short review coming up) and went to have my long awaited A&W meal at JB. All Malaysians are really lucky, you know. We Singaporeans have to travel all the way to JB or Batam to taste A&W, but you all have it so convenient. As the saying goes, treasure what you have as you will only realize it’s importance when it’s gone. (No, I’m not a glutton for using this saying for food. Just had to make this sound a lil emotional. )

Coming back to Gulliver’s Travel, this is basically the story of this guy who was sent to the Bermuda to write an article. The movie is more on what he experiences after that. Jack Black did justice to the comedy part but the movie if you ask me, was just average. This could be purely just my opinion though. I think my disappointment actually is because of my expectations of it; since it was a 3D movie.

There weren’t many effects to look out for, and I found there was little work for those 3D glasses. I found the few more bucks I paid were a little unnecessary but I’m ok about it since my company was good. It was a pleasant surprise seeing Jason Segel though. He’s one of my favourite characters from ‘How I met your Mother.’

Sunday morning was spent in JayBee. My dearest BIL Saara brought us to A&W (like finally, after months of bugging and pestering from me and Dharshi.) We had to wait for 45mins to an hour before we actually got our food (in installments; first the onion rings…. 10 mins later the fries…. 15mins later the chicken, etc.)

Let’s just say the experience was more memorable than the taste of the food. (Especially their ‘Fortune Burger’) -.-

But then again, “IT’S THE COMPANY THAT COUNTS.” – (My trademark dialogue) Heehee.

I’m back to work here. My office is so quiet as everyone is clearing their leave! That’s good. Lesser work for me.

Okay, till we meet again….

Another thing is the gender discrimination I see a lot online. Girls go criticizing guys, guys go slammin’ women.

Example:

(1)    All women are sluts. (7 people like this)

(2)    Why are all guys so ugly? (9 people like this)

 It’s really meaningless of someone to judge the entire gender just because some of them act a certain way. That just explains your absurdity. But it really impresses me when these imbeciles always have standard group of a few half-baked friends just like them who joins them and slams down that specific gender each time such comments comes up. Talk about ‘the power of stupid people in large groups’. Lol.

When we begin to feel humid or sometimes after an exercise routine, almost our whole body starts to perspire. But why does the smell mainly come from the underarms, you may ask. That’s b’cos, perspiration in other regions of our body is mostly salty water, as compared to the proteins and oil present in the perspiration in our “sensitive” regions. (I.e. The armpits, genitals etc.) The proteins and oil leaves bacteria on the surface of your skin which breaks down the sweat and that releases the unpleasant smell lingering around, which is commonly known as ‘Body Odour.’

Not everyone who perspires smell the same, as B.O. is usually acts upon your lifestyle. Certain habits or food contains different kind of enzymes that are eliminated in the skin.

Body odour may be influenced by diet. Certain foods, such as curry, garlic and strong spices is normally associated with containing chemicals that may be excreted in the skin that ultimately causes you to smell bad.

It’s normal for everyone to smell bad after they reach their teenage-hood. It’s after puberty when sweat glands become active and develop under the stimulation of hormones and protein.

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Now, this is the most important facts which everyone must know about Body Odour.

What happens if one day, you find out you actually have a very strong Body Odour that makes people around you uncomfortable?

Step 1

Be hygienic. Take proper showers every day. When I say proper, I mean use proper cleansers which work well to remove existing odours. Exfoliation helps too. Get a scrub or a loofah spongue to exfoliate your underarms. If you find that normal body-washes don’t do much for you, try using good anti-bacterial Body Washes like Dettol. The only setback for this is that these may be a little drying on the skin, but you can always apply some lotion on your skin afterwards.

Step 2

Purchase good deodorants or anti-perspirants. Any drug store brand should work good in controlling the unpleasant smell. If a normal one doesn’t do much for you, try mixing a normal roll-on with a spray. This should be very effective in eliminating the unpleasant smell which is excreted when you perspire.

Step 3

Make sure the clothes you wear are thoroughly cleansed. When I say cleansed, I don’t just mean washed. I mean, disinfected and deodarized. For most people with a strong B.O., washing isn’t efficient enough in getting rid of the smell. That’s when good brands like Febreze come into the picture. Or most Fabric Refreshers may do the trick. Using a perfume merely masks the smell and sometimes the combination of one’s odour with the perfume may make the smell even worse. So ensure that the smell is eliminated before you spray on your favourite perfume.

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The above mentioned steps are usually enough to get rid of the embarrassment involved with Body Odour. In my opinion, this is not a disease as mentioned in other websites. Don’t scare yourself.

But if you still receive feedbacks that your smell lingers around, make a visit to the doctor. Not that you are sick, but you just need medical help to keep it under control. The next time someone honestly tells you that you smell bad and need to something about it, don’t hate them. Love them for being truthful as how you smell is an important way of presenting yourself infront of people. (Of course the people has to do it in a subtle manner. If they shout ‘HEY YOU STINK!!!’ infront of others, show them your middle toe and walk off. LOL)

Most of the Shelter Homes here are closing down. They can’t be blamed, as they’re running low on funds. And not every Tom Dick or Harry can adopt the dogs as most of them are Mongrels which are generally large in size. And most of us Singaporeans live in HDB flats which doesn’t allow us to keep large dogs. I personally don’t see much sense in that rule. Yes, it may be difficult for the large dog to move around in that small flat and for christ’s sake, it doesn’t mean that a bigger dog barks louder then a medium sized dog. Most Mongrels are so friendly, they don’t even bark at people.

Each time there’s a homeless stray, they are being put down to sleep by the AVA. Take a walk to the AVA Building and you can hear cries… Cries of the dogs before they are put to sleep. I guess they can see death coming. So, does this mean that it’s better to kill dogs then put them in a SMALL, safe home?

When I make enough money, I’m definitely opening a shelter home to take care of these Mongrel dogs. And when I make even more, I’ll create my own Dog Rescue Team and catch morons who abuse dogs. That reminds me. In Singapore, dog abusers are usually let off with a warning. Something must be done to put these dumbwits in prison.

This issue by itself is enough to motivate me to work harder in life to give a good life to these poor animals.